BULLYING IN RELATIONSHIPS

Relationship bullying refers to one partner in a relationship who bullies the other. It is behavior that is perpetrated by one partner in a relationship to maintain power over the other, usually resulting to abusive levels. Bullying in a relationship is more about feeling powerful than caring about the relationship; it’s about feeding the ego. According to Dr. Testa, author of “Bully in Your Relationship”, bullies feel so weak that they develop an overwhelming need to command and dominate, to compensate for how vulnerable they feel in the relationship.

There are some signs if portrayed means a partner is a bully in a relationship;

-No one’s feelings counts except theirs

-They prefer digging up what should be left in the past just so as to beat the other partner into total submission

-They always issue threats in their statements

-They always want to vet punishment for every mistake made

-During communications, they slam the door and hit objects

-Also burst into tears, and so on and so forth. 

All these are tactics to make sure the other partner subdues totally under you and cannot and should not contradict your opinion, ideas or views. Rather than dominating and subjecting a partner to total agreement or nothing more to the other’s ideas, relationships should be enabling where partners compliments each other, understands and agree on every issues while tolerating and compromising if need be. It is important for partners to be on equal ends with no particular partner subordinating and oppressing the other either physically or verbally. 

 

MAAGBOR WELISANE.